Over the last few months I had been trying to implement several changes in my practice, and I admit I have been struggling with this, you may wonder what this has to do with having IBS or any illness but I will get to the point………..from feedback from my clients over the years, I know that implementing changes in what they eat and their lifestyle has been a challenge, so although these are slightly different areas, the problem and the solution are the same for any challenge or change we need to make, whether this is work related or health related. I was reminded about the whole idea of trying to change too many things at once, becoming overwhelmed and failing to implement the changes, and one of the major reasons we fail to implement changes is due to lack of support and accountability. Often we may either know what to do or we have an idea of what needs to be done, but we still don’t do it because we will do it “tomorrow” and you all know what tomorrow never comes.
I like to change things overnight – but in some cases this doesn’t work in creating long term success, we can get overwhelmed and 9 times out of 10 give up as it becomes too difficult or you start failing on one change and think “oh well it doesn’t matter, if I can’t get that one thing right why bother with the rest” – does this sound familiar?
So why do we struggle?
Most of us try to make changes alone and you may end up faltering because of one slip up, there is no one to support you and cheer you on and then you may end failing as mentioned earlier we tell ourselves, that it is too hard and talk ourselves out of it, we convince ourselves that it was never going to work so we can justify our actions and feel better about it – I know you are all smiling it’s human nature we have all done this possibly many, many times over. I know I have!
So how can you make changes successfully? Join a group, find your cheerleaders, jump on over to my facebook page and/or subscribe to my newsletters where I offer support for my community, take the first step -in finding your “cheerleaders”
After struggling for a few months on my own, trying to make the changes I needed to make, I decided to find my cheerleaders, so I signed up and paid for a four day course that helped me define the changes I needed to make and I have ongoing personal support and in a week I have made some changes that I have been needing to make for months and the funny thing is I tell my clients this all the time…….. you need support, find a support network. I now call these people cheerleaders: (*warning: these may or may not be the people closest to you…….). These are the people who will support you through your lifestyle changes, the ones who will talk you out of rather than into eating the things that may not be healthy or helpful to you by reminding you of your goal. Do you find that in most instances everyone says “one biscuit wouldn’t hurt” or “one cup of coffee won’t make any difference” – these people bless them are not your cheerleaders. Most often they are the people who are the closest to us and it is not that they want us to fail, but if we are successful at making changes it means they may have to look at their habits and lifestyle and make changes and that may be uncomfortable for them.
In my personal experience and the experience with my clients I find the best ways to do this is through a group that will offer you support, it gives you the motivation to succeed and make successful changes. Because of this I offer “cheerleading” to all my clients. Mostly, they know they can do it, but sometimes they just need the support to know that someone else knows they can do it too.
Getting support, understanding and feedback from people who may have been in the situation you are in or still are and finding their way through it and allowing you to help others, is essentail on yoru healing journey – in my experience you will always get support from others, you just need to ask, share your experience and help others in a postive way on their health journey and this in turn will help you.