as published on Watchfit
If you are like most people there are things you would like to change in your life, these could be anything from improving your health, wanting to be happier or to be more successful.
As the year draws to a close and we are faced with making the usual New Year’s resolution it may be time for you to think about what you should be doing with your life.
What do you really want? Often we focus on what we don’t want, we all know what we don’t want but in my experience very few people sit down and think about what they really do want. I think often we are taught that it is bad to want things and we feel guilty for wanting things but I give you permission it is OK to think about what you really want, to be clear I am talking about wanting things for yourself such as improved health, more money, more free time, financial freedom, to be able to travel more often and not about coveting things that other people have.
What do you really want? You need to answer this question with passion and with clarity in order to decide what you should do with your life. The second question I would ask is why, what do you really want and why do you want it?
Everyone I know wants to have or create better circumstances than they have right now for themselves and for the people they care about. Understanding what it is that you truly desire is the key to taking the first step to change your life. If you don’t know what you want, you don’t know what action steps to take in order to get there. It is natural to have hopes and dreams, when we have hopes and dreams we start to take action to make those hopes and dreams come true. When we lose hope, we lose our enthusiasm and no longer take the required action needed to make our dreams come true. So knowing what you really, really want drives you forward; if you know what you want, you know where you are going and therefore you know the steps you need to take in order to get to where you want to be.
Practical Steps to Decide: What to do with your life
- Get a blank piece of paper, write at the top – My perfect Ideal day
- Take at least 5 deep breaths and relax
- Ask yourself this question “if I could have anything, what would I want?”
- Don’t be logical, practical or realistic, let your imagination run wild
- Write down whatever comes to mind
- Spend at least 15 to 20 minutes on this
When I did this a number of years ago for the first time, I really struggled so if like me this is the first time you have done this and you are struggling to think about and imagine what you really want here are some questions to help you:
- Where would you like to be living? country, city, farm, woodlands, by the sea
- What kind of house would you like to be living in?
- How many rooms, bedrooms, outside space etc?
- Who would you like to spend your time with?
- What type of food would you like to be eating and with whom?
- How many hours do you want to be working?
- What work would you like to be doing?
- What will you do in your leisure time?
- Who would you like to spend your leisure time with?
The first step in this process is to make sure you have a clear understanding of what success means to you. Many of you reading this have been conditioned by your parents, family, peers, and society to think that success should look a specific way (house, car, family, money, etc.)
Some people have no interest in making a lot of money, buying a big house, and working all day in an office, they would rather live a simple and humble life others may love to work twelve hours a day six days a week
To each their own, just make sure you are being true to yourself and not other people’s definitions. As Steve Jobs said “The only way to do great work is to love what you do”
Step two is to relax and have fun, make sure you turn off all distractions and have nothing to do and nowhere to be.
I 100% guarantee you that when you love what you do you will have so much energy that you won’t be able to contain yourself. So I ask you again:
What do you really want? and Why do you want it?
When you can answer these questions with clarity and passion – Congratulations!! Follow your dreams; you will know what you want to do with your life.